Overthinking Out Loud

Think everyone’s watching your every move? They’re not. The Spotlight Effect tricks you into believing you're the center of attention—when most people are too caught up in their own inner chaos to care. This post breaks down the psychology behind it and how to stop shrinking yourself based on imaginary judgment.

Your shadow self isn’t evil—it’s the parts of you that got shamed, silenced, or buried to survive. Facing it isn’t about becoming more spiritual or “healed.” It’s about getting real, reclaiming your truth, and learning to stop abandoning yourself. No filters, no pretending—just brutal honesty and wholeness.

Covert abuse doesn’t come with screaming matches or bruises. Instead, it creeps in quietly with subtle behaviors that mess with your mind. From gaslighting to backhanded compliments, covert abusers manipulate reality to control and disempower you. Recognizing these behaviors is the first step to breaking free and reclaiming your peace of mind.

Why do you keep explaining yourself to people who couldn’t care less? You’re craving validation and approval, but here’s the brutal truth: you don’t need their permission to be you. In this post, we’ll dive into why you keep explaining yourself—and why it’s time to stop wasting your energy on people who don’t deserve it.

Ever wonder why someone else’s bad mood suddenly becomes yours? It’s not just empathy—it’s emotional contagion. In this post, I’ll break down how other people's moods hijack yours and how to stop it from taking over your life. It’s time to protect your energy and stop absorbing everyone else’s emotional baggage.

Ever wonder if it’s your intuition whispering “trust me,” or anxiety screaming “RUN”? This post breaks down how to actually tell the difference—no fluff, no spiritual jargon. Just real insight on recognizing truth over fear, learning to trust yourself again, and making decisions that feel right, not just logical. Spoiler: Your body knows. You just haven’t been taught how to listen.

Do narcissists know they're narcissists? Sometimes. But not in the way you think. They might recognize their behavior—but don’t expect guilt, change, or emotional growth. This post breaks down the twisted psychology of self-awareness, ego armor, and why calling them out usually leads to more manipulation—not accountability.

Trauma bonding feels like love, but it’s really your nervous system clinging to chaos it’s been conditioned to survive. This post breaks down why we get emotionally hooked on toxic people, the brain chemistry behind it, the lies we tell ourselves to stay—and how to finally break free without crawling back for another hit of hope.

Lying is human. We all do it—for protection, gain, approval, or just to avoid awkward sh*t. But the reasons behind lies run way deeper than most people realize. From white lies to straight-up fiction, the psychology of lying explains why people do it, how the brain gets better at it, and the signs to watch for when someone’s not telling the truth. Because sometimes, the lie isn’t the biggest problem—it’s the damage it leaves behind.

Most people know about fight, flight, and freeze—but there’s a fourth trauma response that flies under the radar: fawn. It’s all about people-pleasing to survive. Saying yes when you mean no, over-apologizing, and losing yourself in the process. It’s not about being nice—it’s about staying safe. Let’s talk about what fawning *really* is, where it comes from, and how to start unlearning it.

Dealing with a narcissistic mother is exhausting, but you *can* protect your peace. Here’s how to set boundaries and stay in control.

Temu is a hit-or-miss shopping adventure—some buys are gems, others are junk. Is it worth it? Here’s my honest experience! #Temu